i'm at training camp in florida for the week with limited internet access! i have a few scheduled posts and i'll stop in if i can. i'll be back on monday!
being in college is tough. for many reasons. there's academic pressure to succeed in the classroom and earn degrees that will help us in this world that offers no job assurance. there's athletic pressure to be the strongest and fittest athlete when there are so many that are stronger and fitter then you are. and there's social pressure to get invited to the most formals and have the best wardrobe. but on top of that, women are now expected to be in relationships while juggling all of these pressures. it used to be that women were expected to find a husband and settle down. now we're expected to find a husband and build a career. i think it's great that we are offered so many other opportunities now. but i think the "find a husband/ boyfriend" aspect doesn't need to be a part of our lives at such a young age.
i was asked four times on christmas eve if i had a boyfriend, and when i said i was currently single, i was asked, "well why?"
this isn't a "i'm so jealous of people in relationships so i'm going to pretend i'm fine with being single" post. some of my best friends are in long-term relationships, and i think it's great. in fact, if you are dating or married and you're younger, then i think it's incredibly romantic and also lucky that you found someone.
the truth is, i'm happy to be single. in fact, i don't want a boyfriend right now. and i actually mean that. my freshman year of college i spent so much time going out at night and dressing to impress a certain guy. i watched people fall into relationships and (as we in college call it) "continuous hook ups" and wondered what i was doing wrong.
but here's the thing: i realized that i am in college. i am at a point in my life where i have no responsibilities. so what if i'm single? that means nothing. i have watched so many of my friends rush into relationships and fall apart. i have watched my friend cry over the same guy for almost a year and wonder each time he treated her poorly if she should or shouldn't break up with him. i have watched another friend miss out on sorority activities and events because her boyfriend needed her. i even watched another friend turn down an amazing study abroad experience because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she went.
being single right now fully allows me to experience everything and not worry about having someone else. yes, it's incredibly selfish. but if there is ever a time to be selfish, it's now. i get to go to london this summer and not worry about leaving my boyfriend at home.
it's about freedom. so while some girls say they are happy being single, but then get dressed up and go out at night constantly looking for someone to impress and getting frustrated when guys don't answer their texts, i'm going out at night for me. i'm dancing with my friends at parties. i'm not worrying that something i do or say will make someone i'm dating upset.
for now, it's a situation i am surprisingly content with.